‘It’s Okay To Be Okay’

A couple of months after her daughter’s stillbirth, former little one actress Alexa PenaVega is sharing some perception into how she’s doing and the way her household is dealing with their loss.

Alexa and her husband, “Massive Time Rush” singer/actor Carlos PenaVega, misplaced their fourth little one a number of months in the past, and he or she’s opening up and responding to fan questions concerning the grieving course of and the way her household is doing.

In a not too long ago shared Instagram video, Alexa defined that it is “okay to be okay.”

“I really feel prefer it’s actually arduous for individuals to see how we’re reacting to our loss. Truly, early on when associates have been calling to examine in on us, and we may lastly get on the telephone, and we’d be okay, it was nearly prefer it wasn’t okay that we’re doing okay,” she mentioned.

“And if we mentioned, ‘Truly, we’re doing nice,’ there was all the time the like, ‘You are simply in shock.’ We have now a lot peace. It damage, it sucked, it was terrible, it was terrible, however we’re okay.”

Alexa’s Instagram caption defined a bit extra of the story.

“It’s okay to be okay after loss. We grieved. We damage. However we have been restored and stuffed with peace. Indy will all the time be part of our lives. Life after Indy will probably be brighter as a result of she introduced us perspective. She introduced us nearer collectively. She made us stronger. She helped us develop in areas that wanted progress. She was LIGHT in our lives and all the time will probably be,” she wrote.

“Don’t get me fallacious. What we might give to have her in our arms now… however we don’t wish to reside in her LOSS… we wish to reside in her LIGHT. God’s peace surpasses all understanding.”

Greater than 68,000 individuals appreciated Alexa’s Instagram video, and almost 1,000 commented on it sharing that they perceive her perspective.

“Fantastically mentioned. I feel this attitude must be normalized for conditions like this as a result of it’s unhappy and horrible and heartbreaking however you possibly can select to have that occasion elevate you up or you possibly can select to permit it to convey you down,” one particular person shared within the remark part.

One other follower wrote, “Grief is such a curler coaster of feelings, some days are tougher than others!”

And lots of others may additionally relate to how Alexa and her household are shifting ahead after Indy’s dying.

“Feeling this with you a lot as a stillbirth mama myself. Grief is such a wild journey, and it goes up and down. I’m so glad that you’re having peace and good moments within the midst of struggling,” one particular person shared.

One other added, “I can relate. Transferring ahead just isn’t the identical as ‘shifting on’ and selecting to see the sweetness in life is a superb alternative and a supernatural reward that many individuals will not perceive.”

When a social media follower requested Alexa, “Do you’re feeling the pull to get pregnant once more?” she shared her response in a video.

“On the best way dwelling from the hospital, I keep in mind balling subsequent to Carlos and I mentioned, ‘Do not ever let me do that once more. I by no means wish to get pregnant once more,’ as a result of I used to be hurting so badly, clearly,” she mentioned. “After which the very subsequent day, we have been each within the bathe holding one another, balling our eyes out, and similar to, ‘We won’t wait to do that once more and have one other shot at this.’ It is so bizarre how your feelings discover these curler coasters.”

She concluded her video by explaining that Indy will all the time be a part of their household and they’d like to have one other little one regardless of it being one thing scary to consider.

Many viewers shared their appreciation for Alexa being so open along with her grieving course of.

“I like how fantastically sincere and open you’re about your loss and your entire journey. It is uplifting to witness your religion and what God is doing in your life. A lot like to you each,” one particular person wrote. One other mentioned, “The way in which that you’re approaching such a troublesome scenario is extraordinarily awe-inspiring. Bless you each.”

In mid-Might, Alexa shared an replace on how she’s doing one month after dropping her daughter Indy.

“I simply wish to say, first off, that we’re doing properly. We’re truly doing rather well contemplating all the pieces,” she mentioned. “We have now been so grateful studying all your messages of help, all of the prayers that you simply guys have prayed, now we have felt them. I do not understand how else we might have gone by this season with out all of you lifting us up in prayer.”

The “Spy Children” star additional defined that “this season is probably the most traumatic factor that we have ever needed to undergo as a household” and hopes to by no means must once more.

“We have now clearly felt loads of ache, but additionally an insane quantity of peace,” she continued. “Like, God has actually met us on this place between ache and peace, and it actually would not make any sense aside from it’s his supernatural peace that’s simply protecting us and permitting us to nonetheless undergo grief and to nonetheless stroll by this valley, however not alone and never with out function. This season, I’ve discovered a lot about ache with function.”

Alexa shared the information of her daughter’s stillbirth on Instagram on April 15.

“After a wonderful and peaceable supply, our daughter ‘Indy’ was born at relaxation,” she wrote. “It has been a painful journey. However within the ache, now we have discovered function.”

She shared that her religion and prayers from everybody have helped her household heal and discover peace and that Indy modified their lives in many various methods.

“This little lady has already modified our lives in so some ways. She was completely lovely. And seemed similar to daddy. Darkish hair and all,” her publish continued. “Grief has come to us in waves. Moments of feeling completely gutted…then moments of feeling blessed by simply getting a second along with her.”