To the Editor:
Re “Easy methods to Celebration (With out Regrets)” (Sunday Kinds, June 23):
If I had been to take a lot of the recommendation on this article, I’d really depart a celebration with many regrets.
The artwork of gathering must be centered on being collectively (as you might be, with no inflexible set of prescriptive guidelines to observe) and forging real connections. In a world with a unending record of to-dos, I really feel grateful most days simply to interrupt bread with these I like, nonetheless they could like to decorate or nonetheless early they could want to depart (e.g., to alleviate a sitter, to go on name for night time shift at a hospital).
As a way to discover your kindred spirits, you don’t want a information on easy methods to be performative and easy methods to assimilate so as to “slot in.”
I used to be notably rankled by Rebecca Gardner’s contribution: “Please don’t ask individuals to take off their sneakers when coming into your condominium. It’s impolite.”
As an Asian American lady who owns an inside items enterprise, I open my residence commonly for family and friends — and to host occasions for the group.
Have you ever seen the streets of New York Metropolis? I definitely don’t need anybody traipsing in with snow, dust or God is aware of what else acquired caught to their soles. It’s impolite to supply culturally insensitive recommendation.
America is a various place, and there isn’t only one method to throw social gathering on this nation.
Michelle Pham
New York
To the Editor:
No! No! No! By no means ever inform a number what you’ll carry. It’s not your social gathering. At all times ask what you’ll be able to carry to assist out the host, who has a particular concept of what his or her social gathering is all about and may inform company what they will contribute.
I’ve hosted a gazillion events and all the time respect individuals who ask what they will carry. Somebody who tells me what they’ll carry is being presumptuous and never respecting my function as a number.
Rik Kristiansson
Water Mill, N.Y.
To the Editor:
Completely exhausting and completely amusing. The posturing; the “guidelines”; the phoniness; the nervousness clearly skilled by each host and visitor. Geez. Loosen up, everybody. It’s only a social gathering.
Fran Miller
Lafayette, Calif.
Giuliani and Trump
To the Editor:
Re “State Appellate Court docket Guidelines to Disbar Giuliani From Working towards Legislation in New York” (information article, July 3):
Rudolph Giuliani can now not observe regulation in New York as a result of the court docket discovered that he advised quite a few lies that had been “designed to create mistrust within the elective system of our nation within the minds of the residents and to destroy their confidence within the legitimacy of our authorities.”
Mr. Giuliani can’t observe regulation in New York, however Donald Trump can develop into president.
Doris Fenig
Floral Park, N.Y.
Occupational Remedy for Older New Yorkers
To the Editor:
Re “Why Extra Older New Yorkers Are Ending Up in Homeless Shelters” (information article, June 29):
Because the chief of one of many largest social providers suppliers in New York Metropolis, I’m keenly conscious of the getting old inhabitants in our metropolis’s shelters. Increasing entry to reasonably priced and supportive housing for our older neighbors is essential — however we should go additional.
Occupational remedy helps individuals strengthen expertise for each day residing, and for older adults specifically, these providers be certain that they will age in place with dignity.
The occupational therapists in our shelter and supportive housing packages assist older adults get to medical appointments, interact in wealthy socialization alternatives, connect with group sources and a lot extra.
With these helps, we’ve seen reductions in pointless hospitalizations and nursing residence placements, in addition to improved bodily and psychological well-being amongst our older residents. Each older grownup housing program within the metropolis ought to incorporate sturdy occupational remedy providers.
Eric Rosenbaum
New York
The author is president and C.E.O. of Undertaking Renewal.
